Hi Sue. Your earlier response re Jessie turned out to be the best bit of info I've got so far (and now Brian has just given something really intriguing!) The Jessie Heaney you found at Maughold looks definitely to be my Jessie, and I found her birth date as a result - 18th April 1885. Apparently, her 2 daughters, Winnie and Laura are buried in the same grave as Jessie, but they were supposedly called Starkey. I say supposedly, because Jessie was always known as Starkey too, but it turns out she was Heaney, and that (according to Brian's great find) her father, Thomas Starkey married twice - Jessie becoming his step-daughter - maybe Winnie and Laura are Heaney too? The search goes on.....
Maggie