As you say curiouser & curiouser. If Andrew had been in the army before he could have rejoined more easily especially as a bandsman. Check out Tonbridge to see if it was a garrison town? The birth
cert for the child born there holds the key. But where was she on the census.? I can't see her. You
may find that William Henry Spurr ' s occupation a clue. Meanwhile where was the 2nd marriage?
Have you looked in England under maiden name?