Terri, would you please give the bapt marriage and burial dates for Hugh Joughin and the name of his widow, the year she left the IOM, and the details of their children. Also the details on the gravestones you looked at, and at which church?
Do you already have their census records in both the IOM and Nth America?

There's not much point in someone taking time looking up records for you if you already have them.

Sue