Hi Sylvia,
I have posted my family tree on ancestry.com.au if you type in john oates in the search bar on the website you should be able to see my family tree call oates/reschke. i have attached photos of gravestones for you. hope they work. Would love tosee the photos you have i dont have many photos of the oates's. I can only get as far as William Oates 1801 then i hit a dead end so any info would be much appreciated.
Hope to hear from you soon Lisa