In 1851 John Starkey is in Ramsey as a Widr aged 23, car proprietor, b.Bride.

The only possible first marriage appears to be to ELEANOR JESSE 26 MAY 1849 Braddan [IGI].
Eleanor no.1's burial could be STARKEY, Ellen 22 And 19 Oct 1850.

When looking for her burial I noticed on Brian's burials list: STARKEY, Eleanor Clark ag. 73 Lez 17 Feb 1904, who looks like John James's mother. You could buy that death cert. www.gov.im/registries/general/civilregistry
Her birthplace in the 1861 census is given as Patrick, but you need to look at her marriage entry to be certain of her father's name and occupation, because there were several Eleanor/Ellen Clarkes. LDS film no. 0106727

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