Thanks Brian for your response..i think the headstone is in old yard Rushen..it is hard to read..but Thomas is at the top i can read December on it

Then Jane May 1863 cant read age ..then son William December 2nd ?? looks like 1?

Afred son April 21st i think 1873
then Catherine 4th April 1881 aged 42? she must have died at the census time because she was on the census iom with my grt grandad Alfred Cook.
Many thanks..i think i will send off to iom for her death cert ..Catherine that is..am hoping it ..will have maiden name on?? maybe not??!!