I seem to be at a standstill except for you and your efforts. This wouldn't have been as difficult if my grandparents deaths had of been normal and the family headed out of the south and to California to avoid the shame of murder-suicide. My father's family just didn't talk about their years in the south that much. Don't think it was all that happy. I often wonder if they made a pact not to talk. It's a mystery. I have only one 1st cousin who is in her nineties and just as much in the dark as I. Thank you so much for your interest and all the work you have gone to. Jo Pratt