Hi There Michelle,

Yes you are on to something. This is most definitely the same family. From the information you have given, I take it that you must be the g grandaughter of Robert Alfred d 24.7.1941 Willoughby.
Robert Howland b 1839 ( m Elizabeth Jane Quine 1861) died 16.12.1902 in Paddington not Grenfell as you stated. They had 10 children:
Elizabeth Jane b 26.6.1862 d 8.12.1938
Emily b 8.11.1863 d 9.10.1945
Sarah Ann b 21.4.1866 d 16.1.1942
Robert Alfred b 28.1.1869 d 24.7.1941
Ellen b 25.6.1871 d 30.7.1872
Olive Margaret b 14.8.1872 d 1921
John Edward b 26.5.1874 d 25.10.1942
Isabella Mona b 14.7.1876 d 12.3.1922
William Archer b 7.3.1879 d 29.5.1948
William Charles b 22.8.1880 d 6.3.1943
William Archer was later called Thomas Arthur. John Edward is my grandfather. He is the one that I have done most of the research on. He was a chemist in Newcastle manufacturing his own rememdies. I trust that this information has been a help in your research.

Cheers Christine